I love Arianna Huffington’s post on her blog Sunday about parenthood. She cites the LA Times Book Review cover story about the deluge of motherhood books hitting the market right now. Reading these kinds of books makes me feel so much better about how I manage my own motherhood. Many of them are written by women of my era and I can see some of myself in there. They offer great perspective: windows into the world of other mothers who are going through the same doubts, concerns and joys. The best thing about them is there are so many stories of accomplished women who are struggling just like the rest of us. Yes, some of them are whiny, some of them are just over-the-top. But we all have our moments. There is nothing better than getting out and seeing how other people are doing it to make you feel better about your own balancing act.
I recently read Marg Stark’s “What No One Tells the Mom” and Judith Warner’s “Perfect Madness: Motherhood in the Age of Anxiety” — the guys at the Bel Air Athletic Club seemed to get a kick out of seeing me reading that while riding the elliptical. I found them at the Bel Air library.
Here are the books listed in the Times article:
‘The Wall Between Women: The Conflict Between Stay-at-Home and Employed Mothers’
(Prometheus Books: 192 pp., $18 paper)
‘The Working Gal’s Guide to Babyville: Your Must-Have Manual for Life With Baby’
Paige Hobey with Allison Nied, M.D.
(Da Capo: 412 pp., $15.95 paper)
‘Mommy Wars: Stay-at-Home and Career Moms Face Off on Their Choices, Their Lives, Their Families’
Edited by Leslie Morgan Steiner
(Random House: 336 pp., $24.95)
‘To Hell With All That: Loving and Loathing Our Inner Housewife’
(Little Brown: 244 pp., $22.95)
‘Motherless Mothers: How Mother Loss Shapes the Parents We Become’
(HarperCollins: 410 pp., $25.95)
‘Every Mother Is a Daughter: The Neverending Quest for Success, Inner Peace, and a Really Clean Kitchen (Recipes and Knitting Patterns Included)’
Perri Klass and Sheila Solomon Klass
(Ballantine Books: 290 pp., $23.95)
‘Maybe Baby: 28 Writers Tell the Truth About Skepticism, Infertility, Baby Lust, Childlessness, Ambivalence, and How They Made the Biggest Decision of Their Lives’
Edited by Lori Leibovich, with a foreword by Anne Lamott
(HarperCollins: 288 pp., $24.95)
‘Perfect Madness: Motherhood in the Age of Anxiety’
Judith Warner, with a new foreword by the author
(Riverhead Books: 332 pp., $15 paper)